Thought patterns that make consistency hard
Is it hard for you to be consistent? Do you feel guilt over holding your sensitive generally well-behaved children to the same standard as everyone else? Do you sometimes purposely overlook some misbehavior because it was minor? Or because that child is normally on task? Or that child is getting their work done? This is causing your more difficult students to dislike you. Difficult students tend to have a very strong sense of justice and fairness. They also want to look outside themselves to blame others for their problems. It is much easier to think, "My teacher is always picking on me. She's not fair," than it is to think, "Wow. I really am making some poor choices." When you have different standards for different students, you are not being fair. Especially if your different standards lets some children get away with more. And since we are all racially biased, you probably let your white students get away with more than your kids of color. This is especia...